Did You Shoot Someone?

The next time I hear someone say “I was bad,” in reference to their diet, I may have to shoot them. I meet people all the time, wonderful people. People who are successful in business, sports, academics — you name it. Why, I bet I could live off the taxes some of these people pay!! But do they consider themselves successful? Are they happy with their lives? Generally, yes. But there is one area in which they consider themselves failures, and they would give up their successes to attain this one goal: to lose weight.

At work last week, I saw one of these people as a client. She came into my office, looking at the floor, as if she was ashamed. As a matter of fact, she did feel ashamed. We exchanged our hellos, and I asked how she was doing. Slowly she looked up at me and said “I was bad.” I looked at her and heard myself ask “did you rob a bank?” “No” she replied. “Did you shoot someone?” Again, “no.” So I asked her what possibly could have happened to make her so sad, and she said “I ate three pieces of birthday cake at my daughter’s party.”

Why is it that people place judgments on their eating behaviors? Someone is “good” or “bad” based on what they’ve eaten? Doesn’t it sound crazy? Don’t you think someone is good or bad based on, well, whether they’ve robbed a bank? Hit their child? Voted for the other candidate?

Yet we place this valued judgment on our eating behaviors. Let’s stop this craziness, and put our relationship with food into perspective. It is just one of the many relationships we have in our lives. Relationships wax and wane – we’re not always happy with how the relationship is going, but the healthy ones last.

Let’s save the bad behavior for when we shoot someone.

Become At Peace with Food: Stop Dieting and Lose Weight

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